Changes

In our lives there comes many changes, we are little, we have fond memories of them. My memories for this blog are going to consist of just that.

When i was little i lived right in front of my cousins, Christy AKA sis, and Kenny.. Who were always at my house. My parents kinda took them in as any aunt and uncle would who were good people. Esp, when you live right beside one another. So as we grew up it was more like a sister and brother type of relationship that we had with them.

We had some family that lived in missouri and would visit frequently. But, as we grew up, my cousin would baby-sit us, and her boyfriend would always come over because he was cool.. and at that time i truly remember 2 songs that come to my mind that we would listen to as he would blare them in his El Camino or something like that, but they were Chevy Van and Lovin, touchin, squeezin. Wow, what those memories would hold.. My cousins best friend was Jackie, she was alot of fun and she would play with us while my cousin would make out with her boyfriend Lance, yeah good babysitter huh? LOL Kenny, chad and I would all do something else which would always end up somehow of getting into trouble by the end of the night, HOW, i really dont know…hehe

Anyway, as the time went on Sis was getting into some things that she shouldnt have been, but.. hey, it happens. So, one day I heard my mom and dad talking about how she was going to MO.. I thought to myself no… So mom and dad called us down stairs and was telling us how she was going to be going. We thought we had some time to play with her yet, boy was i mistaken. We had to go over that moment and tell her good-bye… ;(

I clearly remember standing in my bathroom upstairs, in the window watching and cried as they loaded the car with her belongings and then they got in. She sat in the window waving to me for as far as i could watch her… I remember running to every window for the hopes of just one more glance before she was out of sight.

This was a pretty rough time for me, but it couldn’t have been more of the wrong place to send her. There they would buy 20-25 cases of beer right off the beer truck. She didn;t need to be exposed to any more of that, she was just doing a fine job of doing that on her own here!!! So anyway I guess that the importance of her being there to here brought me to alot of my feelings today.

We were very close, she was more like a sister to me then a cousin. We had some really great times together, here and when she was there. We did many things together, shopping, go karting, mini golf.. white water, which was a huge water park. When she was drinking it wasn’t so much fun, she was always looking to start an argument, fight, whatever it maybe…but i still loved her when she was that way, most of the time..hehe

Anyway, as we both grew older she became a parent, got married, and had a beautiful lil girl.. Still her drinking kept up, and it really made life at times so hard, because when we were so wanting to help her she just kept pulling away. It was crazy. Sometimes, you don’t realize how hard alcohol can hurt a relationship until your in that posistion. I just know that it has taken years of struggle, tears, and a lot of hard work to get to the point we are at again. I missed so much, but yet learned a great deal. Working with someone to try to help them is much harder then it seems, they ALWAYS think they are right, they always have the answers, and noone can tell them any differently. It’s been a struggle, ok so i wont lie. It’s been hell, and wearing at times.

Today, she is in a relationship, her daughter has grown and has 2 beautiful children of her own. She has moved away from the state that has been “Poison” to her for so many years. She just didn’t realize that. Today as she is in a completely different state, working everyday, and not drinking.. she is a different person. The one I knew and LOVED growing up, as children, and as a partial adult.. The woman that she is now, is loving again, caring, and just a totally different person. I believe that it took that for her to realize that drinking is something that NEEDS to be a part of her life, but one that she can live and without drinking and becoming the person she was..

I am very proud of her and am thankful for this CHANGE in her life. I am not sure where she would have ended up.. Which scared us all..

Thank you for CHANGES in LIFE that have brought her back to girl I used to know and love very much. I love you sis and am very proud of you!!!!

A Little Worried

For the first time in probably 4 years I slept 12 straight hours. I felt so good when i got up, was a little hyper.. a lil crazy, and just had so much ambition. Where did that come from? However, in the night I woke up just sobbing 2 times with spasms so bad in my legs and back that I couldn’t even more. My body when my back spasm’d was like contorting my body almost kicking my poor 80 chocolate lab that just got his nuts cut off, off my bed. He made a fast track right back up and came right to me to see why I was crying. I knew then, the damn cold, wispy wind, rain and snow was coming.

People think that we are crazy when we tell them a storm’s a brewin, or watch out we are gonna get a cold front… Hell, I swear to you.. I can tell the weather better then any weatherman around. LOL

Seriously 2 days ago, I woke with a cold, running nose, stuffy head, sore throat, you know all that shit that comes with a good old fashioned cold… The weird thing was.. my Tongue.. YES, my tongue that thing hurt so bad in the back of my mouth i didnt even want to eat, drink, let alone take any of my 3,435,345 pills that day. So it was whatever… but!…. as the day wore on I started feeling better, heck i was gonna take myself to the dr, but chose not to cuz i figured i could battle this cold with some good ole sea salt and water… gargle, gargle, swish, spit.. Yep, that’s exactly WHAT I did.. all day long…. and by that night.. it was pretty much gone. YAY ME… What i didn’t expect was the NEXT MORNING, waking up with what looked much like a fever blister on the side of my tongue, and on my lip that made my lip 2 times its original size. Now, I am thinking WTF?!?!?!?!?! So, I started gargle, swishin, and spittin again but it didn’t help a damn thing.. so here I am with this HUGE fever lookin blister on my lip (PS.. ive never had one before) and i just don’t even know what to do.. How to do it or what.. I am taking acylivir because with my RSD and it messing with my damn nerves gave me shingles… So yeah.. fun it’s always something New and Exciting with CRPS, I swear.. I told my friend today as I noticed as my son was driving me to the grocery store, that my eyelid was peeling, yeah thats right peeling right the hell off my lid.. like i got sun-burnt or something to that measure.. WTH is that all about??? Anyone??? I don’t know anymore..

I’ve just decided to live by this motto…(sorry mama)

I fucking love CRPS and CRPS sure the hell loves me…:))

Gotta smile, and keep up my awesomeness, because lemme tell you, when this broad goes down… she goes down hard.. So, if anyone feels like joining me with my new motto FEEL FREE… It feels good to say it… It feels good to fight it, and I am telling you what,, its a damn fight I WILL NEVER GIVE IN TOOO!!!!

As, I have said before… I have RSD, but it sure the hell doesn’t have ME..:))

Oh yeah, my friend told me I was her crazy friend… who, me? CRAZY.. oh helllllllll yeah!!!!!!! LOLOL gotta live up to my standards…:))

Have a great day!

To my Beautiful Step-Daughter Katie

Katie,

I just wanted to tell you that 6 years ago when you came into my life, I wasn’t sure if you were going to like me or not. I tried everything I had in me to give you a full set of my heart. I had so much fun with you that summer, and we just clicked. We formed a bond that was amazing to me. At that point, I knew that you were going to be a special lil gal to me. From that point on, our relationship grew and grew. Before I knew it you were turning into a beautiful girl. You have the most amazing eyes, and the biggest heart and soul. I loved that about you. The way you laugh, made me crack up so hard that tears would come. That laugh that is just as contagious as you are. We all loved you from that point and still do to this day, despite what some people may say.

We have had so many good times together I couldn’t even count them. Just hanging together, or going shopping, or having our “girl. spa days”. The list goes on and on. I will never forget those times, nor will I ever forget the love that the 2 of us shared. Or the heartbreaking times we would leave each other at the airport and you and I would both be crying… We have a bond sweety that can’t be taken away, and I sure hope that someday you realize that, or remember that.

The boys and I miss you terribly, and we think about you all the time. You have touched our lives in ways that you may not understand yet, but you will in time. I hope that we can keep in touch and keep that bond that we have made together.

I have some pictures of you, from this summer that i have put in my room and look at and think of the fun things we were doing when they were taken. I’ve also left your jewerly box, and the rest of your things as you have left them. Just can’t put them away yet. I am hoping that at some point we can see you for a few days..

I love you so much sis, and as I said.. we have really missed talking to you. Please feel free to call or text at anytime you want too. We LOVE hearing from you.

I love you to the moon and back, and always will..

Amy

It’s been a few days…

I figured today would be a good time to write.  Today I learned alot, while being awake a couple of hours and sleeping just as many.

Have you really ever stopped to think about why someone would want to ruin someone else’s happiness?  Why do people live on drama alone?   How do you look at Drama?  What Classifies drama to you?

To me, Drama is someone or something that continues to try to stir up shit, despite it being over or just because they choose to hurt someone.  I thought as adults Drama should be null from our lives.  Have I been a part of it, sure.  Only because it was clearly evident I needed to play a part, did I like it, no… There are other ways around it.. For instance remove the person or persons that are causing that Drama.  Get rid of the BS that goes along with it, but when it comes to hurting someone I love, i will fight till the end.. Whether i love them or not.  I am an adult, I have been involved in the HS bullshit that is just that.. catty, bullshit.   Today, something hit me pretty hard when someone I love was involved in something that didn’t need to be.  Someone was just trying to hurt her and her boyfriend.  I don’t appreciate this period.  I am all about telling the truth and this was far from the truth as things were said and done that were complete and utterly uncalled for.   A person in their 40-50’s shouldn’t have to deal with this any LONGER.   Truth is, people need to stay out of others lives, UNLESS they are a PART of the lives of the people being affected.  Plain and Simple.  I don’t need the BS.. and neither do my family members.  Personally, I have been thru hell and back but did I put the drama out there on my FB to allow people to see what was going on in my life.  NO, and thats the way it should be.  No-one but my close friends and FAMILY knew what was going on and what was happening to me.. and that’s the way i wanted it.  So why do you insist on TRYING to make other peoples lives hell?

Get over your self, and move on.. leave the people to be happy and live their lives.. and may you do the same in your small headed, self-centered, can’t settle down lifestyle.  What a great role model you are.. and I hope that you continue to be the way you are, because honestly.. NOONE is going to want to settle down with you, being the DRAMA QUEEN you are.  I could say a whole lot more but I will leave it at that.

 

Lastly, but not least… Leave my FAMILY OUTTA YOUR NASTY MOUTH!!!!!   You are no longer part of anything, so as the saying goes… hope you rot in the same shit you made!!!!!!!!

Here we go again…

What in the hell is wrong with me?  Why am I so eager to cry, and my compassion has slowly been fading.  That is not ME.. That’s never been me.  I like to think of myself, as a very loving caring person, and yet as I try to continue to be that my patience doesn’t allow it.  The real me can’t get out of this hole, and try to just move on to the next level..

I think that much of it has to do with the facts being its just bringing me to my knees.  I don’t want this as a negative post, but right now, I am just not feeling happy.  I am thinking about ones that lost loved one, or in the process of doing so.  I HATE that the people I love and care about are going thru all of this.  I just wish that i could have a magic wand and release the energies.  UGH!!!

It’s been a pretty long time since i have been this low.  Something I have been so hard in trying to achieve.  I have the best, most loving supportive family, and I thought to myself as i started getting all these leaks leading up to RSD, come hell or high water, it’s going to happen, they ARE going to be a part of my painful life with me.  They all have been standing right beside me.  I would NEVER blame someone else for the way life happens, when you have NO CONTROL.   Some get hurt a little more than others.  It’s sad to me for every reason in the book!!!

I just you all to know, family, friends, that even tho I may seem a little upset, angry whatever the case my be, please don’t take it wrong or make it out to believe I am just out to hurt anyone.  I would NEVER do that intentionally.  I love each and every one of you, and, Please pay attention to those around you, and just let them know…. but know at the same time it feel to not just  be.  If you can just pay it forward 1 time a month you just make you feel better, along those around you.

sorry, This was a weighted one, but tonite as i sit here writing I have a VERY HEAVY heart.

Thank you listening to my rant…..:))