In our lives there comes many changes, we are little, we have fond memories of them. My memories for this blog are going to consist of just that.
When i was little i lived right in front of my cousins, Christy AKA sis, and Kenny.. Who were always at my house. My parents kinda took them in as any aunt and uncle would who were good people. Esp, when you live right beside one another. So as we grew up it was more like a sister and brother type of relationship that we had with them.
We had some family that lived in missouri and would visit frequently. But, as we grew up, my cousin would baby-sit us, and her boyfriend would always come over because he was cool.. and at that time i truly remember 2 songs that come to my mind that we would listen to as he would blare them in his El Camino or something like that, but they were Chevy Van and Lovin, touchin, squeezin. Wow, what those memories would hold.. My cousins best friend was Jackie, she was alot of fun and she would play with us while my cousin would make out with her boyfriend Lance, yeah good babysitter huh? LOL Kenny, chad and I would all do something else which would always end up somehow of getting into trouble by the end of the night, HOW, i really dont know…hehe
Anyway, as the time went on Sis was getting into some things that she shouldnt have been, but.. hey, it happens. So, one day I heard my mom and dad talking about how she was going to MO.. I thought to myself no… So mom and dad called us down stairs and was telling us how she was going to be going. We thought we had some time to play with her yet, boy was i mistaken. We had to go over that moment and tell her good-bye… ;(
I clearly remember standing in my bathroom upstairs, in the window watching and cried as they loaded the car with her belongings and then they got in. She sat in the window waving to me for as far as i could watch her… I remember running to every window for the hopes of just one more glance before she was out of sight.
This was a pretty rough time for me, but it couldn’t have been more of the wrong place to send her. There they would buy 20-25 cases of beer right off the beer truck. She didn;t need to be exposed to any more of that, she was just doing a fine job of doing that on her own here!!! So anyway I guess that the importance of her being there to here brought me to alot of my feelings today.
We were very close, she was more like a sister to me then a cousin. We had some really great times together, here and when she was there. We did many things together, shopping, go karting, mini golf.. white water, which was a huge water park. When she was drinking it wasn’t so much fun, she was always looking to start an argument, fight, whatever it maybe…but i still loved her when she was that way, most of the time..hehe
Anyway, as we both grew older she became a parent, got married, and had a beautiful lil girl.. Still her drinking kept up, and it really made life at times so hard, because when we were so wanting to help her she just kept pulling away. It was crazy. Sometimes, you don’t realize how hard alcohol can hurt a relationship until your in that posistion. I just know that it has taken years of struggle, tears, and a lot of hard work to get to the point we are at again. I missed so much, but yet learned a great deal. Working with someone to try to help them is much harder then it seems, they ALWAYS think they are right, they always have the answers, and noone can tell them any differently. It’s been a struggle, ok so i wont lie. It’s been hell, and wearing at times.
Today, she is in a relationship, her daughter has grown and has 2 beautiful children of her own. She has moved away from the state that has been “Poison” to her for so many years. She just didn’t realize that. Today as she is in a completely different state, working everyday, and not drinking.. she is a different person. The one I knew and LOVED growing up, as children, and as a partial adult.. The woman that she is now, is loving again, caring, and just a totally different person. I believe that it took that for her to realize that drinking is something that NEEDS to be a part of her life, but one that she can live and without drinking and becoming the person she was..
I am very proud of her and am thankful for this CHANGE in her life. I am not sure where she would have ended up.. Which scared us all..
Thank you for CHANGES in LIFE that have brought her back to girl I used to know and love very much. I love you sis and am very proud of you!!!!